Atithi tum kab jaoge?

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If you are tired of your work, if you really need a break, what do you do? Most certainly, I would go off on a vacation and not barge into someoneโ€™s place uninvited, unwelcome. I also thought that most people would do the same until recently when I came across a person who was willing to break into anyoneโ€™s apartment rather than hers.

We had the terrible month of the year, with a wedding just done with in the family, with renovation in the house going on, with my brotherโ€™s college going, with my exams; in short every one of us in the family was deep submerged into work.ย  And on top of it all we had a distant relative coming over. This relative of us has never been that close, we have never visited each other; in fact we donโ€™t even see each other unless there is an occasion. So she called us one fine day to ask if it was okay for her to come over and stay with us for a while? What were we to say? No? of course not! That would have been just rude and mean, but a yes was an added trouble at that time.

So with a diplomatic answer my parents hung up the phone, hoping she got the hint. With no door bells for the couple of days we thought she did get the hint, but then the third day brought her in with her two daughters just when we were having our lunch.

What is it a hotel? No!! We live in our house and we donโ€™t expect uninvited people all the time. So how are we to feed them? Of course the men donโ€™t realise this.

โ€œCome, come, eat with us.โ€ Said my dad.

But what do we serve them? I was to eat out so there was food for the only three of them. Any how my mother managed to prepare food for all. And she also made separate food for her 6 month old daughter.

Food was not the problem. It was her distance from us. We barely meet and talk, and now she was at our place, and we were lost with what to do with her and her two daughters. Her 6 month old was still fine to be with, but her elder daughter 6 years old, she was a child I have never seen. She would not sit still for a moment, and I can safely say that there is a fine line between being a child and a manner less one. Believe me; you wouldnโ€™t have seen such a kid. I lost all my control when she tore two of my prepared answers to which I had no other copy of and still her mother did not say a word. I lost all control and yet all I could do was ask her politely to take that child away! What was I to do?

I knew kids are not my cup of tea, but I also am always capable of handling them well. At least manage to. But she was out of my imagination. All I wanted was to ask her to leave but of course that was out of the question.

And so this whole inconvenience went on for the next week. Our home was just a weird place to live in even for us. When she lived with us, we realised that she had guests at her own place and she was just tired of all the work and needed a break herself.

I donโ€™t know how relieved she must have been living with us and having very little in common with us, but for us it was very bizarre. And all the while we just hoped when she would leave and we could get rid of fake smiles, unintended politeness, and all the formality.

We were in a situation of-

โ€œAtithi tumย  kab jaoge?โ€

 


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54 responses to “Atithi tum kab jaoge?”

  1. intrepid8 Avatar

    Wow. I can relate to that. I come from a very nuclear family that doesn’t keep in touch with distant relatives too much. One would want to be more endearing and considerate towards such kin not abuse their generosity.

    Sorry to hear you had such an experience. Still, its a life experience to store away.

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks a lot for stopping by. I am glad you can relate to it.
      And yes, it was a pain for us when they were here, and may be really more because we are the nuclear kind as you say. But now that they are gone, we are having a good laugh over that too.
      So in the end, I guess it was an experience. only one regret, I could have given better papers!

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  2. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

    My sympathies. Such unwanted guests really are a pain in the a#@

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Hahahaha
      I know, but what can we do, if we don’t have the guts to tel them off? Just live with them, until of course they are tired and decide to leave ๐Ÿ˜€

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      1. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

        That’s true. Most of us don’t. But some people do have that knack to tell people off. I’ve always admired such people ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        I’d like to be that kind. My mom sure isn’t.

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      3. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

        My MIL is ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ But hshhh, it’s a secret

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      4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Hahahahaha
        That’s always a secret I guess ๐Ÿ˜€

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      5. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

        ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  3. Sifar Avatar

    Looks like such a hellish experience!! Now i know the reason why you had disappeared. Hate such inconvenient and shameless burdens!!! ๐Ÿ™…

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I know, they are just hopeless situations, just got to bear with it.

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      1. Sifar Avatar

        Yeah ….they teach you patience…or rather test it ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜Š

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        I know, and honestly rather than being such a guest, I’d really enjoy some lone trip!

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      3. Sifar Avatar

        yeah true! but some people will not do it and not understand it either!

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      4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        I guess so.

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  4. Shaggy Avatar

    I think half of indian population has this same problem and the other half is it’s reason.

    People here are very nice, we dont say, a word wheb we want to kill that person. Such courtesy doesn’t breeds any good I believe………

    Well, I hope, your athithi have left by now, if not my prayers with you…..

    And yes, it’s very relatable,!!!!!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks dear.
      And yes they have left, and I am just glad to have some peaceful days.

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  5. Shaggy Avatar

    Breed*

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  6. Orange Avatar
    Orange

    Hehe!
    Could totally relate to this post.
    Once my grandmother’s brother’s grandson came to stay with us. He was an engineer looking for a job. Believe me none of us even knew about his existence till he came to stay. He was damn irritating. But yeah, after a few days, we got used to him, until he bothered to leave our place almost 6 months later ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      6 months??????????
      I was dead by the 6th day, you must have really been exhausted. I can never even think of going through it. I would just run away!

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      1. Orange Avatar
        Orange

        Hehe.
        That’s true. The worst part for me was that my grandmother and my parents used to pamper him, literally everyone was perfectly okay with him. They found him ‘funny’. But he was too irritating I tell you ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        In that case, you did have to bear with him.
        In our case, we were all in an equal amount of shock, as to why is she actually here?

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