Just like her.

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People usually have role-model, whose footsteps they wish to follow, like whom they want to become one day, on whom they write essay in school stating why they want to become like them, why according to them they are so perfect.

I for one never had a role model. I am sorry but I never did. Instead all throughout I knew that there was one person that I would try and avoid being. Why? How? Please don’t ask but I know that I never wanted to end up like her, nor do I want to now.

And so began the quest of not being like her. But then how much can a person change herself? The more I try not being like her, the more I find that I am the exact replica of her, the good, and the bad everything has been inherited from her. I am just the spitting image that I thought I never would be.

And then again the struggle starts of not being like her. But how long can this go? And what about not changing yourself? But then what about not being like her?

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49 responses to “Just like her.”

  1. kalyansparks Avatar
    kalyansparks

    Wow..actually you raised a curiosity in us..soo it is really difficult to control myself now because when you are exact replica of someone that can be either mother,sister,or relative..or as I mentioned in my previous post..a replica from parallel universe😂😂..Soo my first question would be who is she?? Sorry for asking..but you almost raised bar…but I want to tell you quote ‘ WHICH YOU RESIST WILL PERSIST”

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks Kalyan, but I said please don’t ask about the person.
      I can satisfy the thought though, that she is not someone from some other parallel universe! 😀

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      1. kalyansparks Avatar
        kalyansparks

        Hmmmm..you little cute devil..👿👿👿👿

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        😀 :-p

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  2. Fab Writings Avatar
    Fab Writings

    There’s no compulsion for finding a mentor in humans! You might get motivation and inspiration for life from unexpected things!
    The post was literally thoughtful and a pleasure to read! 😊

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I am glad it made you think! Mission accomplished:-D

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  3. my valiant soul Avatar
    my valiant soul

    Hey!
    I feel, we should not think about others, instead just follow our own insticts maybe if we are what actually we are inside, one day we may be proud of our own personality!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks for stopping by.
      I agree with you. I think a role model is over-rated. I mean one could have a role model, bu then if someone like me doesn’t have one, then it may be perfectly fine to learn from the life experiences that I have in my life.

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      1. my valiant soul Avatar
        my valiant soul

        Yes,we can always learn from the experience and could carve our own benchmarks.
        Agreed!

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Thanks dear.
        Have a wonderful day ahead.
        Much love.

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  4. Puneet Avatar
    Puneet

    Well, I agree with you here. Even I seem to have no role model 😀

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I think people like us learn from our own mistakes, and if we don’t we make that mistake again and finally end up learning the hard way 😀

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      1. Puneet Avatar
        Puneet

        Hardest way. 😂😂

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        But what other choice do we have? 😀

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  5. radhikasreflection Avatar
    radhikasreflection

    Same here Moushmi. I just want to be Me, period. I do learn things from others. But do not want to be like anyone else!!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks for letting me know what you think,
      I think we are sufficient as a person, we can learn from others, and other such instances, but I don’t think any one can be as perfect to be role model after all, or could they?
      And even if they are, I’d definitely like to be my own self rather than being someone else.

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      1. radhikasreflection Avatar
        radhikasreflection

        Absolutely!

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  6. Shweta Suresh Avatar
    Shweta Suresh

    I didn’t really have a role model either. I think it’s okay. Not everyone has to have a role model. Life lessons can be learnt from anyone and anywhere. It’s upto us to apply those lessons during the course of our lives..

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Very well summed up.
      I am glad to hear that someone is there like me who learnt from people and instances, rather than having a role model.
      I used to always make such perfect people when someone asked me to write an essay as a child. 😀

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      1. Shweta Suresh Avatar
        Shweta Suresh

        Haha I lied through my teeth while writing such essays 😂😂😂😂 but I’m glad to know that I’m not alone

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Me too 🙂

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      3. Shweta Suresh Avatar
        Shweta Suresh

        😁

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  7. Anita Avatar
    Anita

    Well written as always
    I agree with you dear
    Kisses

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thank you dear for your support.

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  8. Prajakta Avatar
    Prajakta

    It’s perfectly okay not to have role models… We each have our own journey and own path to follow – I like to keep people as inspiration.. They provide the positive light, especially during troubled times.

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks a lot dear.
      i agree with you, that people can be inspirational. and that we each have our own separate journey, and somebody else’s life cannot be our path.

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  9. houstonphotojourney Avatar
    houstonphotojourney

    Moushmi, you can never escape physical DNA but it is a lesson to you that has so much irony as you consider it…say a parent for example is severely negative about life constantly, the child grows to vow to always try to be positive and an optimist instead. A person now that the child has been an adult for many year now overhears this person saying to the mother “my what an upbeat and positive daughter you have!” (Of course Mother then states in must have been her (the mother’s upbringing efforts).
    Ok well in a really messed up and funny way the Mother IS correct😂. So you see it’s my way of thinking you do what your heart, soul and conscience say to do and allow whomever so chooses to claim any good credit for whatever it is as typically they DO have a hand in it. (Didn’t mean to write a novel but I like you quite a bit and wish you feel great about the person we have each gotten to know a bit).

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thank you so much dear. This is a different perspective after all. I never thought it this way.
      You are right, the person does have an effect after all, and in some weird way it is because of her that I am what I am, the good and the bad. And as you said I cannot run away from the DNA, so why not take a positive outlook to it, right?
      Thanks a lot dear. You changed my way of thinking towards it too.

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      1. houstonphotojourney Avatar
        houstonphotojourney

        I have a dear friend who taught me this so I can’t take credit of me thinking this way either 🙂 as for mentors I choose to listen to a valued friend who taught me to choose multiple role models that you wish to emulate in their different areas of strength … a man married over 50 years is good to be a marriage role model, a lady who raised 3 great sons I wish to go to for parenting style, a successful business friend for career and such as no person seems to “have it all” so just take the good examples in what the each excel at was great advice for me at least 😊

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Yes, you just cleared my mind.
        This is what I have been thinking all along. No one is that absolute perfect, then how can one person be a role model? I use to do this too, some good quality from someone, then something else positive from someone else, until I kept getting this constant question, “Who is your role model?”
        I think it’s just too much over rated.
        Now I know the answer.

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      3. houstonphotojourney Avatar
        houstonphotojourney

        I agree and you are perfect as you are!

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      4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Thank you dear, you are among the very few people who bear with the ‘real me’. 😀

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      5. houstonphotojourney Avatar
        houstonphotojourney

        I like the real you!!

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      6. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Thank you dear.

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  10. Akhila Avatar
    Akhila

    Her ..your mirror image..?😉

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Nope. She isn’t my mirror image.
      But come to think of it, I could be hers.

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      1. Akhila Avatar
        Akhila

        Oh..is it in that way🤔

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Yes, may be 🙂

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