Modern Aunts!

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Ever wondered, why people are the way they are?

Why do they behave in the manner they do?

Being selfish is important in this world, I think that is very much common to here now, but how far can one go, and even when at someone else’s cost.

Telling someone off, but isn’t it necessary to peep inside your own soul first rather than criticising someone else.

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All these questions bother my mind now because of a friend. She called me up to relieve herself from all that she had gone through in the last hour when she was with her friends and families.

“Why are you so upset?”

The answer is always an aunt in our case, an Indian aunt who is always bothered and interested in someone else’s business.

So here my friend was coolly being the host at her place, celebrating her parents’ marriage anniversary, when this modern, beautiful, charismatic, wealthy aunt comes and flaunts literally everything, from her shoes to the gifts that she brought.

Okay, I know we all must have had such aunts! I do too.

Then came the general small talks, what came next was what my friend was not prepared for.

“So when do you think your daughter should marry? I have a guy in my mind.” There is always a guy in these aunts’ mind.

“I am still studying. I am doing my post-graduation now. I want to work after this.”

“Oh no, I think post-graduation is enough. After that you have to marry.”

All this while her parents just glorying beside her.

The aunt was still not satisfied, “Even this is too much. I think parents should start finding prospective husbands for their daughters when they are about to complete their graduation. That is the exact time, I guess.”

“Yeah you guess!!! Then I hope the next year you are planning to find a perfect husband for your daughter too. Isn’t she completing her graduation then?” screaming in rage my friend forgot that she was the host.

And of course she got a big eye gaze from her parents, and the disgusted look from that aunt, but nothing else mattered. Her mood was spoilt, and so was that aunt’s. Well, post the celebration, she also got a good one from her dad, but what was she to do? Listen to other’s beliefs and commands?

Is it not on her and her parents as to how much to study, where to work, when to marry? As it is it is difficult to convince parents for education and working before marriage; don’t even let me start on post marriage scenarios. And here, these aunts!!

Like literally, how many of them are there?

And you know what that aunt replied to her parents? “No, my daughter is going to study after her graduation; I am in no hurry to marry her off. It’s her life; she’ll see what to do. She is different.”

As if my friend’s life is not hers.

What gave her the right to do so?

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All I can say is my friend could have kept the temper and replaced it with sarcasm; apart from that I am with her. And I don’t care about speaking up to elders or disrespecting a guest if such was the case.

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And for the record, her parents are considering their decision to ‘allow’ her to pursue her higher studies.

So cheers to these ‘modern aunts’.


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57 responses to “Modern Aunts!”

  1. Cynthia Sage Avatar

    Wow! They sure are always interested in our case. Like our parents can’t do it.
    But looking at it, in my side of the earth,(though i haven’t really had ‘aunt’ scenarios), i think aunts over here are more of the ‘let me mind my business’ …that’s the way they try to act, but poke nosing is inherent with them…they can’t help it. Whichever way, we’re glad we’ve got them.
    Great post, Moushmi.

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks a lot dear.
      I know the scenarios can be different, but it is there, poke nosing I mean.
      I think that can never stop, it’s mandatory.
      Anyways have a wonderful day.
      Much love dear.

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      1. Cynthia Sage Avatar

        Same here.

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  2. Sifar Avatar

    People dont mind their own business 😒

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I so wish they would!

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  3. Shweta Suresh Avatar

    This is relatable in a way. It’s like they have absolutely no regard for our opinions. Any kind of social gathering results in people being extremely nosy and interfering. This is one matter that gets on my nerves so much! What I hate the most is when they say, “ohh you have to be married within x years.” As if someone gave the authority to decide when I should marry!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I know, and more often they do have double standards.
      People gossiping about your having a boyfriend, these aunts hardly are aware of their own children’s girlfriends and boyfriends. I wish they would stop being so nosy and start minding their own business.

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      1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

        Me too! Sonetimes, I try my best to avoid certain people because it’s just not worth putting myself through the conversation that’s sure to follow if that see me! 😂

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Ditto!!
        You won’t believe how many times I avoid bumping into some people just to be out of their perspective. Even my mom seems to notice it now 😀

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      3. Shweta Suresh Avatar

        It’s much better than getting our mood ruined by insensitive comments, right?! Some people just can’t take a hint so we’ve got to do our best to stay out of their sight. 😂

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      4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        I guess that’s all we can do. 😀

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  4. Vandana Manomohan Avatar

    Quite typical and relatable!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks for stopping by. I understand how it can get into someone’s nerves.

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      1. Vandana Manomohan Avatar

        So true! For all those many aunts who need a breather once in a while!

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