I have learned one thing over time, I might be wrong, or it may depend on individuality but it has often been true for me.
People tend to not like sad stories, by stories I don’t mean plot or novels, I just mean situations. They tend to almost hate it when we talk about sad and depressing situations going on in our lives, but in return they still expect to get an ear or two when they themselves are in such gloomy circumstances.
How justifiable is this?
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Yes, that is all a person needs, just sometimes to have an ear.
Thanks Buddy!
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Absolutely true. It’s this inherent trait which is ever pervasive in a number of people with slightly sociopathic tendencies. Hearing about others ‘ “sad stories” implies that they will have to show a degree of empathy. This is nigh on impossible for certain people as the focus is averted from them and onto another. So these narcissistic sociopaths then ignore said “sad tale”, revert the attention back onto themselves in some way, deftly avoiding the illusion of an attempt at empathy (for that’s what it would have been should they have attempted it) and go happily back to discussing (monologuing ) about their favourite subject- themselves .
On the yang side if that yin, it is troublesome to the spirit if someone ONLY talks in sad stories. It is a heartfelt duty to our fellow humans to listen and support if they are sad and melancholy, however if someone is trying to suck the life force out of you by talking about his troubles constantly, with no end in sight, then one should cut short this succubus type behaviour for fear of losing oneself to that person’s darkness.
Balance.
Balance is key. It’s peace.
Wonderful post
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Hie, thank you for such a thoughtful post. I might not even have considered it so deeply before posting it. But you explained it so well. Thank you so much,
And I rightfully agree, that balance is the key, not going too far, and neither being too away from the truth, might help.
I honestly appreciate your response on this post, thanks a ton!
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Thanks dear.
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Omg…this is so true Moushmi!! And remember we had this very same conversation once ..on that post of yours in which you told the story of how you started writing!!…
It’s true… people don’t give an ear to your sadness but want to have one when it’s their turn!!… it’s a purely selfish human nature 😏
Moushmi Radhanpara 
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