The Problem Of Calling It ‘A Problem’.

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The situation usually one deals with is that where, as a human, you create a problem, then worry over it, then scale the said problem, then you work it out and then finally you get it done with. The problem is then forgotten, learnt from and in the distant past soon. That is the usual plan, right, when it comes to dealing with your problems in life, big or small?

But off late I have been acquainted with another problem, or should I say a problem of looking at this problem matter? Very recently I have been analysing it differently. Yes, we all have problems, I get it. No one’s life is a cake-walk. But now I know there could be another situation too, another very raw way to look at the said problems. In this second situation, as a human you create problems, then worry over it, then scale it with all your other problems, weight the importance of this problem, and then before even solving it, you scale your problems with someone else’s problems, then you realise that your problem may not be of even a little worth in comparison to the other persons’. Then guilt pricks you, gnaws at you, crawls all over you, to even think about your problem as a problem. Then, that guilt becomes your problem, for even thinking that you had a problem when all this while other people have real important matters to look into. And finally, with that guilt, comes back your first problem, and you start wondering how do you even define this problem as a problem? You want to let it go, without calling it a crisis, but it knock you back down and doesn’t let you get up until you call it with its previous name, ‘the problem’.

So the second situation has two problems, and no solution? The guilt keeps haunting you, and then somehow you just move on? You have no solution because, solutions are meant for problems, but you constantly reject the idea of it being called a problem. How can you? You have seen worst and now you want to fuss over your little princess problems? But unless you try and get it done with you just have to keep dealing with the problems….

I have no idea what I have written above here. But honestly, if you get me, what can a person possibly do in such a situation?


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39 responses to “The Problem Of Calling It ‘A Problem’.”

  1. ʞɐ Avatar

    Quite a complicated post you write there.
    There seems to be problem with my understanding. -_-

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      With mine too, my friend..

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  2. radhikasreflection Avatar

    Problems complicate life and our understanding of it Moushumi!

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      You are absolutely right.

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  3. iScriblr Avatar

    Think less, ignore more and live for the moment – that’s how I keep my problems away!❤

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I will try to adapt this, my friend.

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  4. Kurian Avatar

    Moushmi, frankly you have made me to think

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Let me know if you get the answers 🙂

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      1. Kurian Avatar

        Sure 😊

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  5. Infinite Living Avatar

    I think problems and emotions like guilt both fall under the category of perspectives. Usually I would question myself ‘What am I not looking at?’ Or Is something different available here?

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      But what if there is nothing that I can look at? What if it’s all just a blur?

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      1. Infinite Living Avatar

        I understand how it feels. Yet with your permission I will continue to nudge you to open up for exploration with …
        What if that blur is a perspective too?
        It is important to remain in these questions without actually answering …often a space opens up which is different and we are able to listen to ourselves deep within from that space …more possibilities develop from there.

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      2. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        You are right in a way. That blur might open up some possibilities, and I promise I will step towards it now, hesitantly but with firm affirmation too.

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      3. Infinite Living Avatar

        Ease, joy and positive power to you my friend. Each one of us has had to take this journey.

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      4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 🙂

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  6. Mark Lanesbury Avatar

    Realise that it is how you are thinking of yourself (as in any negativities) that paints whatever you feel about any problem. What triggers those problems are irrelevant, it is but a guide to what lies underneath. Find the common theme that upsets you, then get your shovel out. Find what drives those thoughts…and you are free 😀

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thanks a lot Mark for those wonderful words, I am all in force.

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  7. buddy71 Avatar

    dont let yourself be part of the problem. be neutral with others and their problems. and try to stay in the moment.

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I surely will.

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  8. Dewy Avatar

    I find it upsetting when I have a problem and others says I’m making a mountain out of mole hill. The thing is my problem is gigantic to me and to say it’s not a problem is 😖😖😖😖😖

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      I know right!! I feel the same way. I mean I get it, that there are more bigger problems, but when I have a problem, it’s big and essential to me all the same.

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      1. Dewy Avatar

        Yes

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thank you for the advice 🙂

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  9. Shantanu Baruah Avatar

    Tangled in the labyrinth of problems always keep souls despaired. We need to live in the moment and work towards what we can solve. What is beyond our control let it go. Nice blog

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    1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
      Moushmi Radhanpara

      Thank you so much for sharing your insight on this. But sometime this mind wanders on a road which has no destination, on a road which may be the wrong route. But nonetheless it wants to wander only to confuse itself more.

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      1. Shantanu Baruah Avatar

        Beautifully said. Such is the mind and that uncertainty makes us mortal soul interesting and curious.

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